I really admire the originality and wise aspects of your quotes, honestly, but I have to argue with this one. The phrase "everything happens for a reason" is false, and I will tell you why. When I was younger, I lost my cousin in a car crash and I was told constantly that "everything happens for a reason" and that tore me up. I was insulted that people were willing to let him go with those words and I kept asking "then my did he die? why is that ok?" (and though it may seem that I think this statement is false due to personal sentiments, there's more.) I believe that not everything happens for a reason, things just simply happen and there does not have to be a reason save for the fact that there was a drunk driver one the road the same time as my cousin. Those are facts, circumstances, but not reasons for me to have to lose him or for him to lose his life. I think something more appropriate might be something along the lines of experiences breed changes, from tragedy we become stronger, because, because of my cousin's death, my family and I got stronger in the face of pain, we witnessed the darkness of life and from that we grew. Just something to think about...
i have to say that doesn't mean it didn't happen for reason. im sorry if i'm harsh or anything, but what could be better reason for living than to improve others life or well-being, hmm. it can be hard to accept, but if that was to be my "purpose" i couldn't be more for it. well, i also believe pretty much anything is possible, i'm not religious, but i don't turn down possibility of god/s either.. call me crazy if you will..
I completely understand what you are saying, and I am not saying that there are not any results from what happened to me and my family, specifically, but the fact that that was the excuse I was handed and had to deal with stings. I am not religious either, but I believe that people should believe whatever they wish, I just would rather have people understand that there does not have to be a reason. Somethings just happen sometimes. By the way, you are more than welcome to be blunt if you think I am wrong. Everyone has their own opinion, and I personally, welcome that. Thank you, and I am sorry if I come off a little bitchy, I do not mean to.
Yeah, things like that aren't easy to handle. And I guess it's kind of blunt to say such, like there wouldn't be reason to be down or hurt of anything, only because it happened for "a reason". In fact I think there's even reason to be hurt and feel bad at times, it's most natural. I agree, people should also think for themselves and not just agree on whatever they are told. I get where you're coming from, even if I might not agree on everything. I don't say I'm more right either. It's just what I feel : ) Thank you, no need to be sorry, not bitchy at all~
I agree, anything like this is indeed difficult, but so is life I suppose. I also understand what you are saying that that should have not gotten me so upset, it was just the manor of it happening I guess--it is more than likely my own problem. But I feel like people use the phrase as an excuse instead of dealing with the issue...if you follow what I am saying. But I digress. It is also alright to feel bad and be hurt, but like I said, it was just the way it all worked out that hurt and no one seemed to help or care. But I am not still wounded severely, I just wish people did not say "everything happens for a reason" for everything. You know?
People should think for themselves, that is a major issue many face today (i feel).
Thank you for expressing your opinion in such a polite way, by the way
changes in one's life sure are hard, even if they would be for better, it takes time to get used to anything. well, it's okay to be upset too, but it's more important to be able not to dwell on it. i think it's good maybe even healthy to think about the unfortunate happenings if there's something to ponder, so the happenings won't bother one's mind that much later on. yeah, if something like that happened to person i know, i wouldn't go and say that to him/her face, there's time and place for them to consider that own on their own if they so feel. it's kind of hard to come up with anything to say to someone who have had a loss, maybe just listening would do the trick.? i don't know.. saying "everything happens for a reason" is kind of easy way out for sure, also saying things that don't come from one's heart (i don't know better way to express it) won't help, i'd think..
thank you, polite words for polite words. kindness is underrated i feel